Sometimes you desire to be frugal just has to bow to reality.
Let me explain.
As I’ve mentioned before I am traveling this week. I’ve got a conference, some business meetings and then a few days visiting my sister (she’s so fun-we are going to have a great time) Yankee Bill (bless him) is playing single parent for an entire week. This is happening more and more frequently lately.
The first time I went out of town and left him on sole parental duty it was for a long weekend. I lhad leftovers in the fridge that he could feed the kids and bought ingredients for a couple of meals. When I came home the leftovers were still in the fridge, as were the ingredients. He had taken them out to eat twice, and eaten at my mother in law’s house the 3rd night.
The leftovers had to go in the trash.
I learned a lesson from that. Despite my desire to save money and cook from scratch, it is a WASTE of money to throw food out. I had to accept the fact that my husband does not like cooking and after a long, hard day at work will most likely take the path of least resistance when it comes to suppertime.
So I decided to deal with reality. Now when I go away I usually leave some easy frozen meals that I would NEVER normally purchase. Frozen lasagna, Frozen (not homemade!) pizza, Frozen Salsbury steaks. . well you get the idea. While these meals are more expensive than cooking from scratch, they are much less than eating out. I do leave a crockpot meal for the first dinner, cooking away merrily on the countertop that they can have for dinner that night. With this method we both wind up fairly happy.
You know, that’s called a compromise 🙂 Funny how one has to do that in marriage. Actually, its a good skill for life in general.
There are a lot of times in your journey to frugality that you will find reality clashing with your fabulous frugal plans. You may have a glorious vegetable garden intended for the spring, full of tasty, fresh lush vegetables. But if you work 40 hours a week, tote kids around to activities a couple of evenings and spend the weekends at sports and church, and have never, ever had a garden before. . . well when exactly do you think that is going to happen?
I don’t say this to discourage you, but rather to have you stop and look at your plans objectively. Your desire may be a huge garden, but reality might be a smaller plot that you can maintain in the time available to you. Or even just some herbs in pots on the deck that can dress up your bargain priced groceries. Then maybe next year build on from there.
Just don’t let those “realities” get used as an excuse!
So come on, fess up folks! When have you had your frugality run smack up against reality?